Will Knowing Your Love Language Save Your Marriage?

The short answer to this question is,’ No’.

Personally, I don’t think it will help your relationship at all!

That is, unless you actively become aware of your love language, that of your partners and then consciously change your habits so that you can speak in each other's love language effectively.

To recap, your love language is how you prefer to express and receive love. Almost always, you express your love language unconsciously. You are almost never aware you are doing it.

This goes way back to when you were born. Back to a time when you’re learning rate was unprecedented than at any other time in your life.

Back then you rapidly developed your personality and means of communicating. These processes quickly became unconscious, and unbeknownst to you, you unconsciously learnt how to communicate love and how you preferred to receive it.

By the way, I’m not saying this is not a problem. It’s a good thing you can do this unconsciously. Life is busy and we need to free our minds up to do other things.

We do literally thousands of things unconsciously. Just think of the enormous number of behaviours you have developed over time. For example, simple things like holding a spoon, or lifting a spoonful of food into your mouth. There was a time you couldn’t do any of those things.

Now you can do that and a million other things, all without having to think about it. Amazing isn’t it?

And communication is no exception.

How we communicate is as unconscious to us as holding a spoon and feeding ourselves.

The problem occurs when our unconscious means of communication doesn’t work as well as we would like it to.

Like in a close relationship for instance. When you and your partner have two very different love languages, you can easily, and mostly unconsciously, fail to meet each other’s needs, because quite simply, you are unaware of what those needs are.

When you have the same or similar love language, you automatically connect on the same wavelength and effectively communicate love to each other in your preferred manner.

Of course, this is just one scenario, but you get the point. Not all relationship problems are a result of a miscommunication of love language.

What I am advocating here though is that unless you become consciously aware of what your partner needs, you will be unable to meet their need. Knowledge is power in this case.

But even knowing what your love language is will not help one ounce unless you use that knowledge to help your relationship grow.

Just having the knowledge of how your partner communicates and receives love is not sufficient. You also need to implement that knowledge and speak to them in their love language.

So what if you don’t know what your love language is. Well fear not, I have you covered.

If you want to know your love language, you can get a free 30 question assessment via my site: https://www.davidbartontraining.com/discover-your-love-language-and-build-a-better-relationship

Both you and your partner should do the assessment, and then once you know what your love language is, you will be empowered to communicate more effectively with each other and potentially build a more loving, long lasting and fulfilling relationship.

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Discover Your Love Language and Build a Better Relationship

Do you want a more loving, long lasting and fulfilling relationship?

In this video I explain what a love language is and how you can use it to develop a better relationship.

It doesn't matter if you are single, in a relationship or preparing to find a suitable mate, knowing your love language can dramatically improve your chances of finding happiness.

Furthermore, I have supplied you with a love language questionnaire, which will help you uncover your love language.

I hope you will complete the questionnaire, because becoming aware of how you prefer to express and receive love could make a huge difference in achieving a more loving relationship.

Get you free Love Language test here and discover what your Love Language is.